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Boundaries in Marriage

I have a Spiritual side within me. You will not hear this from me often as, I’m not religious. I do not believe in a higher being. But I do agree with the Bibles way of spelling out common sense as a guide book that makes the world a better place. This link explains a few of those important examples.

Most of us have no greater desire than a lifetime of love and commitment of the air, and onto the person with whom we share our life. We want to become one flesh with our spouse. This is what marriage is about:

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, 
and shall cleave unto his wife: 
and they shall be one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)

Marriage is about love, care, need, and companionship of two people who overcome immaturity and selfishness in order to form something better than what each person alone can produce.Love is at the center of marriage, but love cannot grow without freedom and responsibility.When we are free to disagree, then we are free to love.If we are not, we live in fear and love dies. When we both take responsibility to do what is best for our marriage, then love can grow. If we don’t, then one of us will take too much responsibility and resent it and the other will not take on enough and become self-centered.

Blaming somebody else for our own behavior is a sign of great immaturity — and I say this although I am painfully aware of the fact that I fall into that trap myself more often than I want to. On the surface, it seems that we can get rid of the responsibility for our actions by blaming somebody else. But in reality we’re just denying ourselves the chance of getting help, because we don’t want to admit to ourselves and others that we failed. By putting the blame on our spouse, we hurt the person we love and who would be most willing to help us. But how can you help somebody who is not willing to accept ownership of the problem that needs to be solved?

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Questions to ask before marriage

  • Why are we getting married?
  • What do we (as a couple) want out of life?
  • Do you think our relationship will change after we are married?
  • What do you think we’ll be doing in thirty or forty years?
  • Do you think it is important to be faithful to one another?
  • Do you think it is important to to be honest with one another?
  • What values do you want to bring from your family into our marriage?
  • What do you like and dislike about your family?
  • What do you like and dislike about my family?
  • What do you like and dislike about your parents’ marriage?
  • LOL! What do you like and dislike about my parents’ marriage?
  • How would you describe yourself?
  • How do you think I see you?
  • Do I have trust issues or feel insecure?
  • Am I a jealous person?
  • How important is affirmation to me?
  • Do I handle compliments well?
  • What is your love language?
  • Do you think we listen to one another well?
  • What are your expectations about how we will spend our free time?
  • Do you believe that we should be doing everything together?
  • Can we each pursue our own interests?
  • Do you need time alone?
  • How would you feel if I want a night out with my friends now and then?
  • How will we make sure we have quality time together?

Finances

  • Can we talk about money?
  • Are you a saver or spender when it comes to money?
  • How much do we owe in debts and what are our assets?
  • Do you want to have a budget?
  • Where does our money go?
  • Should we have a joint checking account or separate accounts or both?
  • Who is going to be responsible for making sure that bills are paid on time?
  • Do you consider going to the movies and having a vacation every year a necessity or a luxury?
  • What are our financial goals?
  • Do you have any outstanding fines or debts?
  • What are our future plans for purchasing a home?
  • Do we both know where our important financial documents are located?
  • What is the most important thing that money can do for you?
  • Who had control of the money when you were growing up?
  • How did you learn what it meant to be a man/woman?

Children, Birth Control, & Parenting

  • Do you want to have children?
  • Do we want to have children?
  • If we decide we do want children, how many children do you want to have?
  • How long should we be married before having children?
  • How do you feel about having children (or more children)?
  • What kind of parent do you think you will be?
  • What is your parenting philosophy?
  • Will one of us stay home after we have children?
  • What type of birth control should we use if we want to postpone or prevent parenthood?
  • How do you feel about adoption?
  • What are your thoughts, beliefs, and feelings about abortions?
  • Do you have any children already?
  • Does religion play an important part in your life?
  • Do you think faith and spirituality are important in a marriage?
  • What is your image of God?
  • Do you believe in God?
  • Can you tell me what makes up your belief systems?

Sex & Kinky

  • Can we talk about sex?
  • Should we talk about sex?
  • Are you comfortable discussing your sexual likes and dislikes?
  • What are your expectations of our sexual relationship?
  • If I don’t say so, how do you know that I want to make love?
  • How will we make decisions together?
  • Are we both willing to face into difficult areas or do we try to avoid conflict?
  • Do you think we have problems in our relationship that we need to deal with before our wedding?
  • Do we handle conflict well?
  • How are we different?
  • Do you think our differences will create problems in our marriage?
  • Do you expect or want me to change?
  • Can we both forgive?
  • Are we both willing to work on our communication skills and to share intimately with each other?
  • Do you have sexual dreams? Tell me about some of them.

Childhood and Unforgettable Memories

  • What were your hobbies when you were a kid?
  • What was your childhood ambition?
  • Who was the first person who died in your life? How did you feel about it?
  • Was there a movie that made you cry? Which one?
  • How old were you the first time you thought you were in love?
  • What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve ever done in your life?
  • What’s the funniest thing you’ve ever done in your life?
  • How old were you when you had your first kiss?
  • Did you parents tell you about sex, or did you already know?
  • When you were a child, did you ever experiment sexually with another child?
  • Were you ever sexually, emotionally, or verbally abused?

Influences & Friendships

  • Who‘s the person you admire the most?
  • Who helped you figure out how to ask someone out on your first date?
  • What is the best relationship advice someone has ever given you?
  • If your friend was cheating on their spouse, do you think you should tell their partner?
  • If your friend was cheating on their spouse, would you tell your spouse about it?

Relationship

  • What were our first words to one another?
  • What was your first impression of me?
  • What was the first thing that attracted you about me?
  • What’s your favorite memory of me?
  • What’s your favorite way of spending time with me?
  • The first time I asked you out, did it cross your mind to refuse my invitation?
  • Have you had second thoughts about asking me out the first time?
  • Right before we kissed the first time, what were you thinking?
  • Do you think that physical attributes are more important to maintaining a successful relationship or do you think that friendship maintains a relationship?
  • How do you describe me to other people?
  • Was there anything that you were worried about the first time we were about to become naked?
  • What is the one thing that I do that makes you crazy?
  • Tell me when you first knew you loved me?
  • What is cheating?

Fantasies and Secret Wishes

  • If you’ve got only one day to live, how would you like to spend it?
  • If you could have 3 wishes, what would they be?
  • Assuming you can afford anything, what would be the most important for you to accomplish?
  • If you were to give money to charity, which organization would you choose? Why?
  • If you could relive any one day from your childhood, which day would it be?
  • If you were to give yourself a nickname, what would it be?
  • If you were to give me a nickname, what would it be?
  • Which celebrity do you fantasize about?
  • If our life story will be made into a movie, what genre would it be? Who’ll play your part and mine?
  • If money were no object, what is the one thing that would be most important to you to do?
  • Do you masturbate?
  • When you look at a woman, what is the first thing you notice?
  • What animals do you like and not like?
  • Describe your perfect dream date.
  • Describe your perfect wedding.
  • What is the one thing that would be a relationship breaker for you?
  • How important do you think monogamy is to a relationship?
  • Who do you believe is the dominant one in a relationship and why?
  • If you were really in trouble, who would you go to for advice?
  • Who do you feel responsible for in your life?
  • How do you handle anger? Has it ever caused a problem in your life?
  • What do you regret most?

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