Boundaries in Marriage
I have a Spiritual side within me. You will not hear this from me often as, I’m not religious. I do not believe in a higher being. But I do agree with the Bibles way of spelling out common sense as a guide book that makes the world a better place. This link explains a few of those important examples.
Most of us have no greater desire than a lifetime of love and commitment of the air, and onto the person with whom we share our life. We want to become one flesh with our spouse. This is what marriage is about:
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother,
and shall cleave unto his wife:
and they shall be one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)
Marriage is about love, care, need, and companionship of two people who overcome immaturity and selfishness in order to form something better than what each person alone can produce.Love is at the center of marriage, but love cannot grow without freedom and responsibility.When we are free to disagree, then we are free to love.If we are not, we live in fear and love dies. When we both take responsibility to do what is best for our marriage, then love can grow. If we don’t, then one of us will take too much responsibility and resent it and the other will not take on enough and become self-centered.
Blaming somebody else for our own behavior is a sign of great immaturity — and I say this although I am painfully aware of the fact that I fall into that trap myself more often than I want to. On the surface, it seems that we can get rid of the responsibility for our actions by blaming somebody else. But in reality we’re just denying ourselves the chance of getting help, because we don’t want to admit to ourselves and others that we failed. By putting the blame on our spouse, we hurt the person we love and who would be most willing to help us. But how can you help somebody who is not willing to accept ownership of the problem that needs to be solved?